Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Please say it's not just me


Maybe it's just me.

Maybe it's the lack of sleep.

But hopefully

all mothers experience this...

When you hit four, does everyone panic for the first few months, thinking you've forgotten a child?

That keeps happening to me.

We load up in the car.

We drive for about five minutes...

and then

I'm frantically checking the rear view mirror counting heads.

Really...

My heart will be pounding as I'm counting.

Will this go away soon or does having four turn you into a forever lunatic who can't remember how many kids she put in the car?

Once I looked in the rear view mirror and didn't see Hudson's car seat handle sticking up behind my seat.

I screamed!

I was yelling..."Anson...is Hudson in the car?"

My calm, just like his daddy child slowly says...

"Yyyyes...

mom...

are you okay?"

deep breath

huge sigh of relief

"I'm sorry, Anson...there's just so many of y'all."

Please tell me this crazy fear of forgetting a child goes away!

11 comments:

Reba said...

I have four...I count constantly. Even when they are all in plain sight, I find myself counting. It is almost an addiction...

so much more without words. said...

Nope. Doesn't ever go away.

Then there will actually be the day when you do leave one behind...like in the bathroom at a restaurant...because you were with a huge group of friends that all have plenty of children...and all the kids are mixed between everybody elses car...and you leave....just to return quickly and hug the child that is wondering why you are crying...not that that has EVER happened to me. So now we count...and count again...and then call each car by cell to see who has what kid....and count once more just to make sure...before we leave the parking lot.

But don't worry. That probably won't set in until they are at least out of carseats...

Feldman Family said...

hasn't gone away yet...but isaac is only 4 months old...we "sound-off" with our corresponding numbers almost every time we get in the car. 1...2...3...and everyone whispers "4" in a high squeaky baby voice

Heather said...

I hate to say it, but it never goes away...I am also forever counting heads. People laugh at me in public because you can see my mouth moving and my finger pointing to each perfect little head.

Jessica said...

I don't know if it gets better or worse, but I do have a friend that's one of six & he got left at a gas station as a kid.

Don't worry, he turned out ok.

Mandy said...

I have four and still count as well. It's really bad when some of them stay home with dad, or go to a friends. Then, I DON'T have four and panic when I count and am missing one or two.

It's crazy! But - the panic, adrenaline rush you probably experienced does not happen as frequently for me. I think I scare my kids sometimes because I will just jerk around and count them (in my head) while I am driving. They have to be wondering what in the world I am up to.

Thanks for showing us all that we are not crazy moms. We all seem to share this issue :)

Hi. My name is Alanna. said...

4 is what put me over the edge. 3 was perfect - manageable, no counting necessary. With 4 who maintain themselves without needing me on a second by second basis, I STILL catch myself checking the rearview and Zeke will be 6 in a few days!!! If someone leans down in the car (even tho I "know" they're already in the car), I immediately go, "WHERE IS so-and-so?" with only a SLIGHT panic to my voice now. ;) The kids think this is hilarious. They're like "MOOOM, he's in the backseat. Duh! Are you ok? Did you think he was gonna fly out like Buzz Lightyear and come back thru the window?" (which starts a whole new imaginary game and they laugh the whole time at ways they could disappear like cartoon characters and I'd be looking around like a crazy woman - boys find this particularly hilarious for some reason) And really - I don't get why 4 is so much harder to keep up with when you're out places than 3 was, but it is. 4 moves you into the realm of "large family" in a way 3 just can't compare with. I don't tend to "count" as much as I tend to run thru the names. I can end up with someone else's child that way, so I do names and faces (or backs of heads) every time I go in another room, go to and from church, the store, the car, etc. But I DO count as well - especially in a hurry. I'm always looking around to see who we've lost or are missing - even in our own house when we're not doing anything! Inevitably, it seems like there's always someone. And the most adventurous ones (which I'm sure is your Hayden), when you've "lost" them for a bit (which unfortunately WILL happen), will say once you found them, "But, MOM, I knew where I was the whole time!" (How comforting.) Matthew says that to me and laughs and laughs. He genuinely means it. I imagine he will never count heads no matter how many kids he has. :)

(Don't feel bad - Jon and Kate on Jon and Kate Plus 8 count without thinking all the time now. And that's on national TV. It's my favorite show just because she feels the same way - constantly looking around her knees and pointing and counting to see who we've got and who we're still missing. I feel so much better about life after watching Kate. :P)

One Crowded House said...

It has not gone away for me either... 6 kiddos... I count- and then recount- worried that I can't count to 6.... I even assigned the kids numbers- so they could say their numbers when we got in the van!!!

BHG & Co. said...

Sorry, I can't say I have ever seen my wife count constantly. At least, not that I have noticed, if I did I would SO make fun of her... but no freaking out here.

Anonymous said...

YES!! I do this ALL THE TIME! Now that there are 8 kids in the house - although two of them are in their early 20's - I count every single time we're in the van or in public. I am QUITE well known for panicking. Usually for no reason.

One tip, since Mark and I always have two cars at the church and often at other places, when we drive out of the parking lot, we hold our hand out the car window and hold up the number of fingers corresponding to how many children are in our vehicle at the time. If those fingers add up to 8, we leave the parking lot. If not, we stop until all are located.

Melodi

the amy's said...

OH NO!!! I only have three and I am constantly looking for an extra kid. Even when I can clearly see my three. Is that weird?