I love the discussion going on about adoption below. I decided to type a new post because there are so many comments, and we've kind of narrowed down some of the issues.
Here are some things we have been learning. Maybe not all of you are as hard-headed, selfish and prideful as us...but we had a lot of prejudice, preconceived notions and bias in our hearts when we set out on this journey.
This topic is already hot and perhaps making people hot...I don't know! But I'm tired of running from the ugliness in my heart. When I run...it just stays there.
My kids are cute, and I love that they look like us and act like us. I love seeing that they have my legs and Aaron's hands. That wouldn't be true in an adopted child!
I am learning...
That I'm prideful and I like myself too much. Don't get me wrong...there's nothing wrong with loving to see myself in my kids. That is super cool. However, for me...it was way more than just a cool thing. It was a necessity. I know that because it was one of the reasons why I was telling God to shove off in the area of adoption.
I can promise you that nothing in me or about me looked anything like the Father when He chose to include me as one of His children. I mean, not a thing!
Will I really be able to love an adopted child like I do my biological children?
This is a real fear of mine.
From the beginning of the Bible until the end, God is trying to shatter societal norms and structures.
He challenged equality between men and women.
He said Jews (much like God's biological children) were equal to Gentiles (outsiders, aliens).
He challenged racism.
He challenged our ideas about family.
I have so much to learn about how God loves and invites us to love all of mankind.